Thursday, November 23, 2017

Genealogy Serendipity

Last week, while leading my Legacy User Group (genealogy software) a new individual joined our group and her last name was See. I’m sure my eyes lit up and I said, I'm sure we are related. My great grandmother’s name was Hattie Jane See, and I joined The Daughters of the American Revolution under John See. Unfortunately I’ve never met any See relatives. Later towards the end of the class, I asked her and she said she was descended from David See and Anna Lowell (the daughter of my murdering pirate), my 2nd Great Grandparents. Not only are we related, it is closer connection than I had initially hoped for.

She contacted me later and it turns out that her grandfather provided the burial plot for my grandfather. Her father is still living and I've got my fingers crossed that he might have more information on my great grandmother. I'm so excited to get to know her and her father better.

Thursday, November 2, 2017

I am an orphan at 62

Linda 1946-2017
It's been awhile since I've written. Last December, right before Christmas, my last remaining sibling was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer that had metastasized. As she was unmarried and her daughters lived out-of-state, I gladly stepped up to take her to her doctor appointments, helped her discuss end-of-life decisions, etc. At the beginning of August, she had an adverse effect from her chemo treatment, ended up in the hospital and was sent to a care facility for "rehab." The pain was so severe at this time that she was unable to participate in her rehab treatment and we had to move her to a different care center. I was able to get her on hospice care, and she sadly passed away on September 14, 2017.

Dennis 1948 - 2004
Since her passing, I've missed the sisters celebrating our birthdays in September and October, a tradition we started when we lost our brother at the age of 56. So now I'm 63 and am an orphan, having lost my dad in 1992, brother in 2004, oldest sister in 2013, mother in 2014, and Linda in September 2017.

Sandra 1943-2013
Gladys 1927-2014
I hate it. There is no one to call to gossip with or share news stories with. There is no one to call to ask, do you remember? No one to answer family questions. There is no one to call to commiserate with when I feel like life is not fair. There is nothing crueler in life than having no birth family left. I almost feel like there is no need to have a telephone anymore as my sisters and my mother were the ones I called all the time.

And to think that other families let small things get in the way of their relationships and do not talk with one another or go out of their way to avoid being together. Do these people realize what they are missing? You can't take back the years you did not speak.

So if you have a parent or sibling you haven't spoken with, do me a favor and call them up. Tell them you love them and miss them terribly and you are sorry that you let anything get in the middle of your relationship. Will you do this?

As my brother ended all emails and correspondence,

Friends and family forever.

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

I would describe each of my brothers, sisters, or cousins when we were young this way:

How do I describe my brother and sisters "when we were young" when they were 11, 8, and 6 1/2 years older than me? We weren't young together. When I was five, my siblings were 12, 13, and 16 and were teenagers.

Although my brother and I shared a bedroom until I was about eight, all I can remember about this bedroom was bunk beds (I had the bottom) and a crib in the bedroom because we frequently had my cousin's son staying/living with us. I believe it was hard for my brother in a household of sisters and the only boy. He turned to his friends and scouting and never seemed to be at home. He was outgoing and friendly.

Sandy, my oldest sister, was a hard worker, working at candy stores, either downtown or out at Merle Hay Mall. People flocked to her (and my younger sister) and the evenings would be spent outside in the summer with several young men visiting them. When I was eight she gave birth to my nephew. Although married, the marriage was already on the rocks and she was living at our house with her son. After graduation from high school in 1962, she went to work for Higgins Ford and frequently came home with a new car she had bought. Saturdays would be spent shopping with Sandy, my mom, and her son, cruising around in whatever vehicle she may have owned at the time. If it was summer, the car most likely was a convertible.

Linda graduated early from high school in January of 1964 and went to work at a local insurance company and then married in July of 1964 and moved out. Her and Sandy hung out a lot, scooping the loop, etc.

My closest cousin, Candy, was just one year and one week older than me. We were very close, staying at each other's house. I loved staying at her house, with all the trees for climbing, and the explorations we did. Candy had a sister about 10 years older, a brother about five years older, and a sister about five years younger. We also had other older cousins, the ages of our older siblings. Out mothers (sisters) both sewed and on a couple of occasions, made us matching dresses for Christmas.

Sunday, August 27, 2017

Ralph Earl Loghry

Sometimes you need to pull up your big girl panties and realize that not all relatives are created equal. Thus, is the case of my great uncle, Ralph Earl Loghry. I've never met him, so can't personally attest to whether or not he possessed a very strong mind. All I know is he threw his young, pregnant wife off a bridge, the judge refused to grant the couple a divorce, and ordered that their daughter be raised by her grandmother and granted two hours of visitation per month. You be the judge. 

Ralph Earl Loghry, born 22 February 1888, was the son of Nancy Jane Rummans and George Eldredge Loghry. He married Anna Rebecca Smith on 19 July 1909 in Clarinda, Page County, Iowa. On 10 September 1909, shortly after the marriage, the Shenandoah Sentinel Post had the following story on page one:

Earl Loghry enticed his young wife to take a walk with him down the K & W railroad track last night, telling her that he had secured a place for him and her to work and that he wanted to go to it that night. When they got about to the center of a large trestle he threw her off into the stream thirty feel below and then made his way back to Clarinda. As luck would have it she was not hurt and after she had recovered from the shock she scrambled out of the mud and water and made her way back to Clarinda through the dark. This took place between nine and ten o’clock.

A warrant was instantly sworn out and the scoundrel was arrested forthwith by Constable Mosely and O.P. Rosencrans, city marshal, and was bound over to await the action of the October grand jury on the charge of attempting to murder his wife, Rebecca Loghry. They had been married about three weeks and each is about twenty-five years old. Since their marriage they have been living most of the time with his father at Hepburn. She is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Smith of near Hawleyville.

Neither Mr. nor Mrs. Loghry are possessed of very strong minds. It will probably go hard with this would-be-murderer as it should be. It is currently reported that he has been mean to his wife ever since they were married making her work out to earn her own living and to keep him.

Thirteen months later, on October 20, 1910, the Shenandoah Sentinel Post reports on the petition for divorce in the case of R.E. Loghry and Anna R. Loghry:

The cause of R. E. Loghry against Anna R. Loghry in which plaintiff was asking for a divorce and defendant entered a general denial and also a cross-petition alleging cruel and inhuman treatment and among other things that plaintiff threw her off a bridge and tried to drown her in the Nodaway river last fall, was set for trial for last Wednesday morning, but when Judge Wheeler learned that the parties were the same who appeared before him last fall in the case of the state against R. E. Loghry for the alleged attempted drowning, he refused to hear it, saying he would not grant a decree to the parties and preferred not to hear it. A little girl was born to Mrs. Loghry several months ago and has been in the home of Mr. Loghry’s parents near Helpburn for some time. The court made an order that the paternal grandmother should have the custody of the child for the present and that the parents might visit the child once each month for two hours.

This child, Margaret Nancy Loghry, appears in the grandparents’ home on the 1920 U.S. Federal Census. What became of her is unknown. It is apparent that this couple was not meant to be together, making me question why the judge refused to grant them a divorce. Ralph passed away on 9 December 1972 in Omaha, Douglas County, Nebraska. Anna passed away in 1968 in Clarinda, Page County, Iowa.

Ralph Earl Loghry and Anna Rebecca Smith had the following children:
         i.            i.  Margaret Nancy Loghry, born 22 April 1910 in Hepburn, Page County, Iowa.

Ralph Earl Loghry next married Luella Martha Bowen between 1910 and 1915 and they had the following children:
    i.    Edward Earl Loghry, born 4 March 1916.
       ii.            ii.   Wilma Mae Loghry, born 16 January 1919.
     iii.            iii.  Maxine Lucille Loghry, born 19 September 1922.
     iv.            iv.   Keneda Katherine Loghry, born 22 April 1924

Ralph Earl Loghry married Stella Mae Schmidt on 24 May 1934 in Papillion, Sarpy County, Nebraska.

[1] U.S., World War I Draft Registration Cards, 1917-1918 [database on-line]. Provo, UT, USA: Operations Inc, 2005. Iowa, Montgomery County, Roll 1643221.
[2] Iowa, Marriage Records, 1880-1937 [on-line images]. Lehi, UT, USA: Operations, Inc., 2014.
[3] The Clarinda Herald: Miscellaneous, Location: Clarinda, Iowa (July 22, 1909), The following marriage licenses have been granted since our last issue: … Ralph Loghry 21, Rebecca Anna Smith 18.
[4] Shenandoah Sentinel-Post: Mrs. Rebecca Loghry Thrown in River by Hubby, Location: Shenandoah, Iowa, Page 1 (September 10, 1909).
[5] Shenandoah Sentinel Post: At the Court House: Shenandoah, Iowa (October 20, 1910).
[6] 1920 U.S. census, Page County, Iowa, population schedule, Valley Township, enumeration district (ED) 118, sheet 7A, p. 1851, dwelling 143, family 143, George A. Loghry household; digital images, FamilySearch ( : accessed 18 Sep 2016).